Why is it that texting your bestie or the squad’s group chat seems to be the easiest thing in the world — where you just so happen to be your wittiest, most hilarious self — yet, when texting your crush, you can hardly string a sentence together? At the exact moment when you need to *really* impress someone, all you can do is stare at your phone screen for minutes on end before mustering up a measly “haha yeah.” Where’s the justice in that? At some point or another, pretty much everyone has been at a loss when it comes to texting their crush, but our list of tried and true flirty texts will guarantee a response in seconds.
Whether your crush adores compliments, humor, extra cuteness, or all of the above, you’re sure to find a flirty text message idea here that suits their love language (aka the way they like to give and receive love). From cute good morning texts to debates on Dunkin’ vs. Starbucks or Five Guys vs. In-N-Out, our list has all of the messages you need to get the ball rolling on the next convo with your crush. Trust us, all you’ll need is their number, a fully charged phone, and a dash of courage and confidence. You got this.
Keep reading to find sassy, funny, sweet, and thoughtful conversation starters that are bound to get any cutie’s full and undivided attention.
Show Them You’re Paying Attention
Not only will you crush be glad you attended their basketball game, but they’ll be extra happy you noticed that awesome three-pointer they made in the fourth quarter.
Get a Debate Going
There’s nothing like discussing a much debated topic with your crush. This one could keep you chatting for hours.
Your crush will be touched that you reached out to check on them. Plus, they’ll be happy to know their presence was missed.
Make your crush laugh with your best joke. Whether it’s a classic dad pun or something a little spicier, everyone loves someone who can make them laugh.
Show Off Your Skills
A chance to show off your skills? Yes please. Plus, the quickest way to someone’s heart is through their stomach. If cooking isn’t your thing, don’t worry, there are other ways to show your crush what you do best. Suggest a game of basketball, go rock climbing, take a paint class together — it’s up to you!
Make Them the Hero
Your crush will feel great about the fact that you want them at an event because they’re fun to be around.
Amp Up the Anticipation
This text will get them excited to see you the next day, and they will just have to seek you out in the halls.
Use Your Senses
Compliment the way someone smells. It’s flattering and everyone knows that a romantic connection is linked to pheromones.
Show Them How Much You Care
Your crush will be so flattered that you used your last few minutes of phone time on them. And even if it’s a lie... they don’t have to know that.
Tag Them in Memes
Get them laughing with a funny meme you think they’ll relate to. The way to a heart is through humor.
Make Them Part of Your Plans
Take something you may normally do alone, like grab sushi or go on a walk, and invite your crush to join. They will be flattered they got the invite.
Wedge Your Way In
People can be super busy this time of year, so get on your crush’s calendar ASAP. That way you know they have scheduled time for your date.
Get Them Excited
Build up anticipation with this text. Then, when you see your crush later, they’ll be so pumped to hang, especially because they know you are too.
Invite Them to Your Events
Your crush will be super flattered you want them to be at your event. How can they say no to that invite?
Ask for a Rec
Show your crush you trust their judgement by asking for a recommendation. Then, when you are watching the show or movie they suggested, you can text them about it.
Let your crush know you’re thinking about them, so much so you can’t even focus.
Find a Restaurant
If there’s a yummy new restaurant you want to try, why don’t you two try it out together? This makes for a great excuse to go on a date.
Compliment Their Smarts
Compliment your crush’s brainy side and make them feel confident about what they say in class.
Give a Rec
Let your crush know you’re on to what they like. Then, when they love the recommendation, you two can discuss it.
Text Them Late Night
Can’t sleep? Shoot your crush a text. It will make them happy to know you’re thinking of them, maybe so much so that you’re too distracted to fall asleep.
Emily is a freelance writer and certified health coach who specializes in writing about mental health, fitness, healthy food, and social justice issues. Emily spent six years as an editor and writer at Well+Good, covering everything from food trends to serious issues like the opioid crisis in America and gun violence. She has also worked at Seventeen, Elle, and Twist magazines. She regularly writes for publications including Forbes, Parade, Shape, and The Huffington Post. Emily lives in Raleigh, North Carolina with her cat Evie.
Leah Campano is an Associate Editor at Seventeen, where she covers pop culture, entertainment news, health, and politics. On the weekends, you can probably find her watching marathons of vintage Real Housewives episodes or searching for New York City’s best almond croissants.
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